and just who is supposed to change...

ok, i've been very grown up lately, thinking and discussing my personality differences with various individuals. i've come to the conclusion that i finally have an understanding of me and how i work (for the most part). the problem is that since i now know how i work, who is responsible for adjusting?

i've realized that i need to turn off my emotions. i am an emotional gal no doubt, but what happens is that folks see my frustration as i tear up, but they believe that my tears turn on and my logic turns off. this is not always the case. tears and logic are not mutually exclusive. tears and calm voice do not negate thought out information and presented logic. tears and loud voice, ranting, and throwing shoes may negate these things...

but, i also know that i need time between information and further discussion. however, this time does not include weeks, days, or even hours. instead, i need minutes. i need to call back and leave a voicemail. i need a few minutes of distraction to regroup. i do not need more than that, and if i have more than that, i will most likely obsess and fester. i may even create scenarios that are not practical or apparent. but my creativity and love for analysis can lead me down some roads that haven't even been forged yet.

so i know these things... great. now what do i do with them? do i communicate them to those who may have to deal with them? do i alter myself to fit the things others do? or do i do my best to use these tactics without expecting others to understand them?

basically, who is responsible for understanding, accepting, and dealing with who and how i am? aren't there rules for this somewhere?